What About Your Friends?

Friendships, much like any other type of relationship, are hard work. There must be a mutual commitment by both parties to love, respect and honor the friendship. I find that at this stage in my life, I am lacking in the friend department. It’s nobody’s fault really. It’s just as you get older and priorities change, it becomes difficult to give yourself time to nurture good quality friendships. In addition to that, I like to have friendships with like-minded people. Now that doesn’t mean we have to like all the same things or do all the same things or be alike in every way, I just like to be around women of substance. Women, who have and are working towards goals, who can hold meaningful conversations, who laugh and have fun, who have careers, who are family oriented, who can offer me advice, inspiration, conversation, love and light and who will accept me for who I am.

Now don’t get me wrong, I do have friends and they are wonderful. However, if I had to reflect on some of the  great friendships I had growing up, some are alive and well, some on life support and others are resting in peace. When you’re an adult it’s somewhat difficult to make new friends, I suppose that’s where Drake got the notion but I’m always envious of women with strong sister girl circles. Women who lunch, brunch, travel and celebrate personal victories together `a la the television show Girlfriends or Sex and the City.

Over the weekend I was invited to my neighbors house for a girl’s night with chili dogs and Cosmos. I was intrigued by the menu alone! Two other neighbors from my subdivision attended as well as two women, who were sisters, that lived in another city close by. I don’t know these lovely women and our ages ranged, some old enough to be my mother but I had the best time, talking, laughing, eating and drinking with them. I was invited to “high tea” which may or may not be as bougie as it sounds but it’s something that’s a new experience for me and we all know how much I love my literal and figurative tea, which you can read here. The girl’s night not only reminded me of how vital it is to break away from Eb, the mom and wife and enjoy time with other ladies but that you also may need to step out of your comfort zone and meet new people.

I’m hoping that going forward, I can maintain a great relationship and friendship with my new neighbors. Above and beyond that, I am going to make a concerted effort to plan and do things with my existing girlfriends. Travel, being at the top of the list. Life is short and moments are important. We might as well make this thing memorable with the people who matter, right?